My 16 month old has a secret skill. A power really. It’s called the power of guilt trip. Sometimes when something doesn’t go her way (typically in the mornings when she is most grumpy), she throws herself to the floor with her face to the ground. Then, if that doesn’t seem strong enough of a response for the emotion of the moment she will fling things around her and turn her back to me. That part always throws me off…the turning away. Depending on the circumstances around the mini-fit, I will often call to her with a smile and an invitation to come over to get a snuggle rather than to continue in the fit. It is interesting that in those moments, she will often continue to turn away from me, sometimes until I stand over her and invite her up into my arms.
I will tell you the connection to this story in a moment, but I will start with a confession.
I sometimes wish that I was perfect.
I am sure that there are some underlying motives to look good to others, but lately it has been coming up in different situations because I just so long to give people the best. I long to love my husband utterly unselfishly and to never hurt him. I long to serve the people God has put in my life with the excellence that I know Jesus would if he walked in my shoes. Often, I am just so tired of making mistakes, and sometimes the same mistakes, over and over again. I want to just live life better. Perfectly even.
That is one of the draws of heaven for me. Although ultimately, I can not wait to have my faith become sight and truly see God as He is, I also really really look forward to not sinning anymore. I look forward to the world being as God intended for it to be, and for me to perfectly be who He has made me to be. I am so thankful that God looks at me through the sacrifice of Jesus. I am glad that He sees me as I will be instead of just the mess that I am now. Sadly though, I struggle to live this truth in the disappointment or frustration of the moment.
I was talking to my husband about this just last night before bed. Then, this morning I went to my church’s first mom’s mentoring group. Many really encouraging and challenging things were said, but do you want to know what the closing words were?
“Many of us hold ourselves to a standard of perfection when God is simply calling us to obedience.”
Obedience. With God’s help, I can do that decently throughout the day. Perfection? Not. A. Chance. I was so comforted. I knew that God was gently teaching me to let go of the control. The desire to control myself and even the things around me. He was calling me to greater freedom with him.
He never called us to perfection. In the verse, “Therefore you shall be perfect just as your Father in heaven is perfect.” (Matt 5:48), the meaning of the “perfect ” word in Greek speaks of maturity or completion instead of not making mistakes (For a good article, go to http://www.centervilleroad.com/articles/perfect.html. ). I thankful for that!!!!!! Instead of the pressure, I am encouraged by a different verse tonight…
“And He has said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness ‘ Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me. (2 Corinthians 12:9 NASB)” He is strong in my weakness. Although there is some vulnerability that comes from looking honestly at your weaknesses and admitting your desperate need for someone outside of yourself, it is also incredibly freeing.
I guess that brings me back to my daughter. She suffers from being imperfect as I do, but even when she lays on the guilt trip or turns away from me, I am still madly in love with her. I am just waiting above her to let me scoop her up and love her in the midst of her mess of emotion. If I, an incredibly imperfect parent can love my daughter like this, how much more does our perfect Father want to love us in the midst of our mess. No, He will never give up in disciplining and molding and encouraging us to be more like Himself, but He also longs for us to turn our face up to Him and accept His grace and love. I pray that next time I have an imperfection crisis”, I won’t turn my face from Him in shame. Instead, I will worship Him that God uses my weakness to show off His amazing ability to use the most uncommon people to do His most extraordinary work.