Three coats and three shoes successfully slid on. One tired baby snuggled into her car seat. Diaper bag. Check. Snacks during play date. Check. Release the monkeys to the backyard to run around for 3 minutes before getting into the van. Check. Grab my coat, shoes, cups I forgot, while rocking crying baby. Check. Get four children secured in van. Check. Start engine.
No Check.
To be honest. It doesn’t even surprise me anymore. Our van is by far the most unreliable vehicle we have ever had. In its short usage it has required new breaks, a new battery, and another little thing or two. We have purchased one of those jumper packs that repair places have just because I am always wondering if the car will choose to start on a given day. I could go on, but I will cut the fuss.
So, I tried starting the car a few more times for good measure and then got out the handy dandy jumper pack to start charging. I texted the poor mom that we would likely be standing up AGAIN (it’s always when we are going to her house for some reason!) and then started passing books around and snacks. I checked the battery gauge level, prayed aloud, and then turned the key. Nothing. Singing time in the car next (I’m telling you, these kids are pros now at flexibility). We were now hitting 20 or 25 minutes of them being buckled in so I decided to try one more time before calling it a no go. I prayed simply aloud, “Father, can you start this van if you are okay with us going today?” The van didn’t start.
I showed just enough disappointment to empathize (Aurora was the most downhearted), and then quickly redirected to the extra fun fantastic thing we would do instead. The kids bounced back quickly with just a little work on my part and the mom graciously came to us in the afternoon. I was still a little bummed though. For one, I was annoyed the van was giving us trouble again. For two, it was the first time I had prayed aloud in front of my kiddos that God hadn’t answered yes.
Guess what verses the kids and I are memorizing currently?
“Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything (James 1:2-4).”
As we were experiencing the van challenge, I was attempted a learning moment. “Wow. This is quite the trial isn’t it?!” [My four year old babysitting cutie often uses that word now if she hurts her finger or something. 😉 ] I honestly wasn’t sure if I would get the question, “Why did God say no?” I guess that question comes later for all of us. Kids are a bit more humble than us adults sometimes. They hear “no” from loving adults and just accept that sometimes “no” happens….well….accept on their good days. I didn’t get the question, but I did have to answer it for myself.
“Why say “no”, God? Why “no” when my kids were listening? I don’t want them to doubt you. I don’t want to doubt you.”
It was at this moment that God brought that verse back to my mind. A verse that talks about the bigger picture of our suffering. Sometimes “no” or “not yet” is to produce character within us that we wouldn’t have developed if the answer was “yes”. Did I want character that morning or a reliable van? A reliable van. But praise God that He wants better, richer things for us than we want for ourselves. Praise God that He sees the bigger picture of what He is doing…even if it means going through pain that we would not have ever chosen to experience.
The theme of trials has been very real in my life recently. I personally have experienced little stuff like the van or several frustrating challenges the past week and a half. More than that though, I have encountered several deeply hurting people that are going through things that I wish I could save them from. Life is really hard. There are no pat answers to soul wrenching trials. There just aren’t. But there is so much hope in God. He cares for each of us so very much.
I don’t know if anyone who is reading this is going through a very difficult trial or walking with someone who is. If you are walking through one, sometimes you want to be alone and sometimes surrounded by others. Sometimes you want words of comfort and sometimes warm silence. Sometimes you feel hope and other times you feel angry or want answers. My personality-bend turns toward digging out answers to hard questions when I am hurting or confused. God and I have had many a conversation over “why” questions. In case you are similar to me and appreciate philosophical input into difficult times, I am putting two links below that relate to the question of why God allows suffering.
The first is a link to a webpage that attempts to briefly answer the question of why God allows suffering. It then links to several other similar questions of suffering, grief, and trials. The second is a link to a minute and a half video of Joni Tada speaking about suffering. I have so much respect for her because she speaks out of experiences of suffering and yet has such joy. If you like her, she has also written a book called “A Place of Healing: Wrestling with the Mysteries of Suffering, Pain, and God’s Sovereignty.” If you are interested at all in it, just message me your address on Facebook and I will make sure you get the book.
Still not sure what with the pictures? Well, sometimes when you are going through a hard time, a devious two year old and a cute baby make things just a little easier. At least I think so. 😉
https://lifehopeandtruth.com/life/evil-and-suffering/why-does-god-allow-suffering/
http://www.joniandfriends.org/blog/why-does-god-allow-suffering/